Assume

I didn’t live in Japan for very long, just under a year and a half, so I can’t really claim to have all this worldly insight from my time there. It was really good for me, and it opened my eyes to the world at large, but most times when I reflect on it, it seems like a reeeaaalllly long vacation. But, over a dozen years later, it’s funny to see what things stuck with which have changed the way I think or do things. Mostly its just a bunch of little things rather than a profound experience. The one that comes up the most is etiquette during queuing situations, like on an escalator or elevator.

“Did the beauty and depth of the 1,500 year old temples have much impact on you?” “Nope, I mostly remember how people lined up for stuff.”

I never experienced the “white glove treatment”, but notice how tidy the queue is and it’s relation to the door.

Dose

I’m honestly pretty impressed with people who are able to write/blog regularly while leading a “normal” life (i.e. they don’t write for a living). I’ve had the best of intentions but free time tends to get allocated pretty quickly.  Regardless, I’ve mentioned that writing about stuff is nice because it provides some perspective, and that’s something that everyone could use a little more of, especially me. I think that committing a thought to paper (pixels?) and knowing that it’s out there in the world for people to read makes you look at the position of perspective you’re holding a little differently, like a little dose of self-therapy.

Ease

In the midst of a busy domestic schedule, I staged a heroic BJJ comeback from a life-threatening thumb boo-boo injury. I was worried that this was going to derail any momentum I had built up, but with some creative taping and rapid learning of alternative grips, I was back at it 6 days later. The momentum I mentioned isn’t really so much momentum, it’s more of a feeling that I had reached a point with BJJ where I was more at ease with the learning curve. Techniques and their dozens of details still are a challenge at first, but I think what’s mostly left me is the fear of the unknown. Am I doing some unspoken thing wrong? Should I be learning this faster? What if I don’t do this or that right? I feel like I’ve got a better view of the landscape and even though that landscape is vast and challenging, that knowledge has in a way made my current classes mentally easier. By this I mean, I have so far to go in every conceivable direction that I can even if a class sees me struggle with drilling and getting crushed in rolling, all I need is one lesson learned and I’m better than I was yesterday.

BJJ Session # 34 – Opposable

The last couple of days have been a lesson in just how important some things are that we take for granted. Coffee mugs, door knobs, cell phones, frying pans… it’s a long list of things that become very unwieldy when you’re down 50% of your thumbs. One aspect that I’ve liked about BJJ from the start is the relatively low instance of serious injuries from training. Now, accidents happen in any undertaking, but little bumps and strains don’t bother me too much. Up until this week, I’ve avoided any injuries of the more serious nature; the kind that limits your training and starts to affect your daily life. Things like getting your thumb caught during at poor attempt at a balloon sweep. Frustrating and annoying is what it comes down to; I’ve just reached a point where things make more sense and I felt like there was some progress being made.

We had worked through some grip breaking and other self defense standing escapes/counters and were working on a balloon sweep when someone grabs both your lapels. Step back, control the back of their elbows, lift a foot to their hip while you sit down, use their momentum to leverage them up and over. I was too tentative, not because I was worried about hurting myself but because I was worried I was going to dump my partner on his head in a awkward fashion. About three or four reps in, he was going over in a weird way and I adjusted my arm out to…, I don’t know, catch him? Ultimately my fault and my responsibility. It is after all, my thumb that was hanging out there. A lot of his weight landed on my thumb and before I could slip my elbow out from underneath. I heard/felt some gross crunching sounds. Tried to work the next drill, which was top control from mount, but by then my thumb was throbbing and screaming at the slightest brush. Time to take a week off and come back Tuesday (with the thumb taped in a sloth-hand position, I think). The lesson learned: arms in, thumbs in.

BJJ Session # 31, 32 & 33 – Bump

The rest of my life has been really inconsiderate lately and thus I’ve got behind on a few things. I’ve been working out again. Only twice a week, but have a program in place in advance of Maui in May. I’ve managed to get four classes plus an open mat over the last few weeks, but that’s eaten up pretty much all of my spare time remaining. That being said, I’ve felt like I’ve made some progress in BJJ in the last few weeks. I’m much more relaxed during sparring and feel like I can defend myself more consistently than a month ago. One specific way I sense the improvement is I can remember techniques or concepts from drills and instruction and actually attempt them in sparring. Yeah, I know. Crazy. Typically, classes went:

• warm up (tired by the end),
• drilling (confusing and awkward but made some sense),
• then sparring (randomly flail around under a barrage of attacks that seem to be coming from all angles)

Lately, the drilling has made some improvement, but the application of techniques from class during sparring is what has stood out for me. I’ve got a better feel for which positions and angles are dangerous when defending, and have started to see opportunities for attacks or positional advances. I’ve taken people’s back a few times (on purpose!), and tried a few attacks in certain positions that didn’t seem available before. Now, I’m not saying that I’ve got this BJJ thing licked, just… I’m a much better brand of bad than previous. 

BJJ Session # 30 – Happy

We watched a documentary last night after BJJ called “Happy“. It’s a look at what it means to be happy, it’s importance to individuals and communities and the science behind how it all works. I definitely recommend it, as it gives some perspective on those universal questions like “what the hell am I doing?” and “why am I doing this?”.

Anyway, there are lots of interesting bits about things like the role of dopamine or the Hedonic treadmill, but relative to BJJ there was a section that looked at the high correlation between regular physical activity and happiness. Specifically, physical activities (i.e. sports) that allow a person to enter “flow“. There’s lots to be said about flow, it’s an idea that resonates with everyone. We all have experienced it and have the same feeling about it: it’s awesome. During this section (which featured an old surfer… I can’t wait to surf again in two months, here’s one of my fav surf videos), we looked at each other and smiled, saying the same thing at the same time: “man, that’s BJJ”. The mental and physical stimulation during BJJ is probably the number one thing we’ve enjoyed about BJJ so far. It’s really great, too, that this state of enjoyment is so accessible right from the beginning when we still generally suck at the art.

Anyway, class was good, too. Repeat of the previous classes’ “headlock in guard” drills, adding taking the back from “elbow on throat”.

BJJ Session # 29 – Return

After my last break due to illness I had a brief (thankfully) stomach flu that wiped away another week of BJJ. I was only really (violently) ill for about 8 hours, but it took a few more days to feel close to normal. I tried to go to open mat on the weekend, but at the end of my first roll, even though it was a warm up/light roll, the nausea meter spiked and I didn’t feel much like entertaining the possibility of puking on the mats.  Anyway, a few days later and my stomach situation was much more stable and predictable. This was my first prolonged break from BJJ and I have to say; I really missed it. My wife and I have been remarking constantly that we’re still surprised how much we’re enjoying this. Not that we were pessimistic about it, but it is still going better than we could have hoped for.

This class featured more standing self-defense grip breaking and a transition to armbar from closed guard.  

BJJ Session # 28 – Break

I was sick last week and as a result had about a 10 day break between BJJ sessions. Sometimes it’s good to take a break from something that’s ongoing. They say a break is as good as a change, probably due to the fresh look it provides. Sometimes a break comes at the wrong time and lose momentum you’ve built up and you struggle to get back in sync. My break was neither, and other than feeling physically tired during class (laying down for the better part of 4 days straight will do that) I felt pretty good, all things considered.  We started with some self defense themed grip breaks (holding the wrist), then some wrist and elbow locks and ended with an escape from back control.

BJJ Session # 26/27 – Survive

One perspective which you could look at life from would be this: life is about reps. The more reps you get at something  the better you get. The fewer reps you have at something, the worse you are. The instances of “natural” talent blooming the instant someone picks up a stick, club, ball, pen, paintbrush or musical instrument are infinitesimally rare. Sure, there are people who seem to “get” things better than others, the task fitting their brains a bit better than others, but those out there that are performing something at a high level all have something in common. Reps. Thousands upon thousands of reps. In all situations, under all conditions, from all angles. When everyone is watching, and when you’re all alone. You don’t shoot the puck like this in a live game without thousands of reps:

There are a million books written about this, and my brief elaboration above is an oversimplification, but the basic truth remains: there is no substitute for reps if the goal is mastery. It seems the universal experience when starting BJJ is this: you will get a lot of reps at trying to survive. 

BJJ Session # 25 – RNC

We continued this week with working from bottom half guard, with the focus on taking the back. Previously, after we had worked to overcome 1 ) being flat on our back, 2) the cross-face and 3) the under-hook, we either replaced our guard or went out the back to take their back.  I felt more comfortable again with the process of moving out the back, control his hip and pulling him back onto me. It’s still a work in progress, but it’s coming.